Grief, Beyond the Borders of Loss

Death has become something we all have faced at some time in our life and become familiar with in 2020. Loss is extremely relevant, as we have now lost over 119,000 to COVID-19.

Although this can be an uncomfortable subject, it’s quickly become a reality for our people, for our Earth. Mothers, Fathers, grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, endless names to those a part to that staggering understanding. How do you grasp that number?

Humanity is facing devastating loss, pillaging anxiety and plundering struggles.

You may not have lost someone personal to you through this pandemic, but perhaps you are experiencing a different kind of loss.

Waking up with the sobering realization of a feeble business, possibly a defeat knowing you may not have a secure job to come back to or even special events you worked hard to plan and were looking forward to; the reality of hard work going down the drain, the feeling of not measuring up to enough, the angst of keeping yourself and your family safe. Contrary to popular belief, the word ‘grief’ encompasses an entire realm of emotions and circumstances.

Grief, is natural response to loss.

According to, grief is the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away.

Grief brings unexpected and difficult emotions you may have never experienced in this realm of your life. You may not even be aware of your grieving.

When I lost my brother to suicide, I went through many stages; I was angry, I was sad, I felt like I was alone. My emotional stages were as numerous as the stars, but following the loss of someone so close to me, I knew what I was experiencing was grief.

I didn’t always understand it and struggled with allowing myself to feel those emotions, but I learned I had to be honest with myself. Recognizing that my emotions, my feelings, my thoughts were valid was an important factor on my recovery to healing.

If you have lost something or someone important to you, everything you are experiencing is valid. There is no timetable for healing, and all grief is experienced differently. This article ‘Coping with Grief and Loss’ recognizes all aspects of loss and goes well-beyond the norms associated with grief.

Hoping encouragement finds its way to you, and light conquers loneliness in the darkest of corners.

Jake’s sister, Amber.

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